Karaoke

Tonight I went out with my cousins to a cute little gay karaoke bar downtown. I fought my hair for what seemed like hours to get it in a decent afro. I left feeling ok and not too concerned with my looks. However, I was stopped several times and was told, by gay men mind you, that I looked gorgeous tonight. That was really what I needed to hear when it came to my natural hair. It is such a challenge to get used to my new look at times. I love it, but I don’t know if I come off looking just crazy to others. Well I locked in the crazy part by singing a horrible rendition of Ciara’s Promise, so that’s not too much of a worry.

My cousin blew us AWAY with free yourself by Fantasia. He really knows how to fill a whole room with beauty.

Fun night altogether.

What I’ve learned about men

I really don’t feel like I’m that bitter man-hating and eating type woman… yet. I mean there is a strong possibility I could be that woman one day, but that’s not the case yet. Sure I still have some hope and a prayer that one day I’ll find someone that is as up to par in life as I am. But until then, I’ve come to a grave understanding of men.

They are just not as good as women. At least not the average joe anyways. Women need to STOP falling over their hands feet and self esteem for a dude that hasn’t even considered seeing you as a potential life partner. We NEEEEEED to look at men as they look at us. We are a dime a dozen to them. They want girls girls girls. So we need to see them the same exact way. “Boys boys boys.. boys I do adore…” or  “I just want to @^%# all  the boys in the world.” This mentality is extremely vital to keeping your dignity in this day in age. No he’s not the ONE. No you’re not in LOVE. Screw that scary noise. It’s a road to no where. You know when you can start thinking about love… when this dude is falling over backwards and making himself look like a damn fool because he has to be with you. And even then… give the guy a few years… men have this thing where they like to pursue something madly that they can’t have… well that doesn’t make you his LOVE forever.. you’re just a very challenging video game in that sense. Don’t fall for the ish. If you are a REAL believer of love.. you won’t FALL for that fluff.

Now am I saying go whore yourself out? No. That part is up to your discretion. It’s not the path I’m gonna take, but some women some how enjoy popping their muffins all around town. I’m sure there’s an art form to that sensitive part of dating, but I expect you will fine tune that in your own experience. I’m not one to judge.

That’s my two cents anyways. The romantic and “in love” feelings you have for a person… is mainly chemical. What you really want is commitment.. loyality.. eternal friendship. Don’t get wrapped up in  these dudes.. especially if you find

him in the wrong place. You’ll be surprised what you can “fall in love with” so you really have to be careful from the get g0. AND NO you are not a shallow gold digger if you want your man to have a good job and plenty of money. We are letting these dogs get off too easy. Keep the bar high.

That’s if you didn’t already know.